Mastering the Art of Losing Yourself, Instead of Finding Yourself

Many people say that people in their 20’s, and even in their 30’s, are at an age of discovery and finding themselves. I’ve found it to be quite the opposite.

I’m 23, approaching 24 in a couple short months, and so far the only thing I have found is that I cannot do this thing called life on my own. I need Jesus. I need a Savior. And in order to find him in my everyday life, I need to lose my own self.

It’s not an easy thing to just “give yourself up”, it’s actually quite hard. It is an art to be honest. This society and this world focuses so much on how someone’s life ought to appear and how one should look physically, that people don’t find themselves, but they lose themselves to vain imaginations.

The world tells us that we need a certain amount of money to “appear” glamorous or well put together. The world tells us that we need to be a certain size and height to be universally attractive and accepted. The world tells us that we have to be married, have children, travel the world and earn six figures as part of the American Dream. We have to dress, smell, look and act a certain way and come off as if everything in our life is perfect when that is never the case.

Nobody is perfect and nobdy’s life is going to be perfect, especially if you’re living the radical lifestyle that God had intended for his children. There are going to be hardships and trials that we face and because they hated him first, they will hate us, too.

John 15:18-19 – “If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. If ye were of the world, the world would love its own; but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.”

Each and every day we must choose to deny ourselves in order to bring praise to Jesus. There are many things we desire in our lives and many temptations that will confront us, but choosing to honor Jesus and his word instead of falling into those temptations, brings praise to him.


When we lose ourself and follow after Jesus and his will for our lives, he creates in us new life and choosing to adhere to this new life causes us to find ourselves. We find ourselves wrapped in his mercy that is new every single morning. We find our hearts and souls devoured in his unconditional love for us. We find that when we are weak, his is strong for us and through us. We find that we are never alone, even in the darkest of times. We find provision, for he is our provider. We find ourselves to be full of joy, because he is our joy and strength.

Don’t get caught up in trying to find yourself. You won’t be impressed.


The Successful Way To Accomplish Resolutions


Each year millions of people vow to make a various year long changes and more often than not they fail at those changes because it can be an overwhelming task to look that far ahead. Some people vow to make those changes and can successfully stick with their comittment to eat better, read more or make financial changes in their lives. In my own life I love to plan, but although I hate to admit it, I don’t always stick to those plans. I’m an in-the-moment-inspired-to-make-changes-person, so I quit making new years resolutions even when I have a million things I wanna change or new things I want to start. Most of the time, people forget what their resolutions were by March of the new year. My alternative solution to this problem for 2016 was to make weekly/monthly resolutions to create a realistic timeline for me to accomplish my desires.

Instead of swearing in the new year with a whole list of changes that will ultimately set me up for failure, I’ll go week to week or month to month which makes everything a whole lot easier.

Each week or month, depending on the kind of changes I’m wanting to make, I’ll make a list to keep me accountable. For me, I can think of several different changes or new interests that I want to try right off the top of my head. The first step is to write down all of those ideas and figure out what kind of timely basis to incorporate them into. An example from my own life, I want to try more recipes instead of the same old dinners or lunches over and over again. So, I’ll decide to try a new recipe at some point each week. It isn’t a huge comittment, but it is a realistic one that I can accomplish. For the monthly resolutions, I choose to do something such as being more involved in my church or attending more worship services. It is something I have lacked in as of late and hope to become more active within my church body and other Christians.

It’s so easy to fall into failure without accountability, so you’ll want to make sure you keep a buddy informed as to what you are doing and how you are progressing. Each person knows themselves and what kind of timeline they will abide by, so attempt these resolutions at a pace that won’t set you up for failure. Once a goal is accomplished or a habit is formed and you start to see positive changes, then your self-motivation will keep you fired up and having a little extra self-confidence is never a bad thing, right?


The Importance Of Fathers


The Importance Of Fathers

One of the most overlooked necessity in today’s generation is the effect of fatherhood on a family. This generation has become desensitized to broken families and fathers have become replaceable subjects. Don’t get me wrong now, of course mothers hold an irreplaceable bond on a family, but people have also continued to recognize this. Fathers offer a distinct love and toughness that oftentimes cannot come from a mother.

Coming from a broken family, I have a little bit of experience. Through jail time, struggles with drugs, heartache, insecurities and financial stress, my father fought for his children and fought to better his life and strived to be the best father he could be. He faced insecurities, loneliness, depression and heartache and yet continued to fight.

According to the bible, the father is the spiritual leader of the home. He is to lead his wife and family into an obedient bond with Christ and emanate a spiritual atmosphere into the home. He is the staple of the family. And it is a daunting reality that so many children will not experience that relationship with their father.

1 Corinthians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

An entire generation has come to terms with broken families and lost children. This is not okay. Parenting has morphed into this deformed definition for some that allows loopholes and op-outs.

I have a very special bond with my father. It is one that has faced many hard times but has grown stronger through circumstances.

Fathers offer a tough love that is critical for the heart of the child. The bond between a father and a child is something that cannot be replaced by the standards and loopholes of this world.

Although, the reality is that there are bad fathers in the world. It pains my heart to think of the children exposed to the horrors of abuse, mistreatment, and neglect. But when that is the harsh reality, the heavenly father is there to swoop in and adopt us as a child of the Most High.

Psalms 27:10  When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up.





Tough Mudder: Spiritual Applications

Tough Mudder obstacles each had an option to opt out. There were options to go around. We could physically see what was in front of us and the consequences of following through with it and decide from there if we wanted to complete that obstacle.

In life we are faced with situations and decisions to make, but we cannot see the outcome. We can’t see the other side of the obstacle and we get scared of the unknown. God gave us free will to choose whether we wanted to “go around obstacles” if we so please. We can opt out of different opportunities we are faced with. We can opt out of witnessing to a certain person. We can also opt out of opportunities by staying in something we shouldn’t be, such as a relationship, a job, or a habit. In a moment we can deny the voice of God and choose to not follow through with obedience. When we choose to opt out of those opportunities though, we also opt out of the blessings that come from obedience. We find HIM in the unknown.

  • 2 Timothy 2:3 Thou therefore endure hardness as a good soldier of Jesus Christ.

-Hardness there means undergo hardships, endure afflictions, and suffer trouble.

BUT soldier there means a CHAMPION of the cause of Christ.

When we are obedient to God and endure those hard times that come because of being obedient to God, we are a champion for Christ.

In your spiritual walk, are you opting out of opportunities that God has placed in your life? Are you going around obstacles because you’re scared of the unknown?

Mud Pit

There was a mud pit that had several holes dug into it. With it being mud, you couldn’t tell where the holes were at. So we had to feel around and go very slowly, making sure not to fall into the holes.

This reminded me of our Christian walk. Sometimes we go through our walk, and suddenly the devil lays a trap and we fall. He strategically maneuvers in our life and place traps that he knows we will fall for. We could be perfectly alright in our relationship with Jesus, and BAM. Satan places a trap called distraction, and we fall into it. Distraction, Depression, Doubt. Sometimes, we fall in that mud pit and curl up and stay there in the trap called comfortability. When we have an encounter with Jesus it changes us. That once muddy pit becomes clear with Gods clarity, and we can discern the traps that the devil is trying to trap us with.

  • Ephesians 1:17-18 That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him; The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; that ye may know what is the hope of his calling, and what the riches of the glory of his inheritance in the saints.

There was an obstacle in which three people had to jump into a small area filled with ice and water. We had to fight through the ice and coldness and swim underneath a ledge and out the other side. When I was under the water, I opened my eyes and all I could see was pitch black. While I was swimming underneath the ledge I got hit in the face by one of the other mudders. I panicked and went to swim up, but I wasn’t at the end of the ledge yet. It was a numbing feeling, physically and emotionally. In that moment I had an overwhelming fear until I was able to get to the end of the ledge and come up.

  • Sometimes in our spiritual walk we feel overwhelmed. We feel like we’re drowning in this huge tub filled with obstacles that we have to claw our way through. Fear, depression, hurt, financial issues, sickness, doubt. They all NUMB you both physically and emotionally, just like the tub of ice water. We try to see the light and hope in the situations we face, but sometimes we only see darkness. At times we panic and often we quit and give up too early. We come up for air when we’re just about to break through to freedom, and we end up drowning in defeat. But if we persevere to the end, we’ll be victorious over that fear. Over that depression and doubt. Over that hurt that we have been allowing to drown us. A song that I talked about before, “When pain is an ocean you are swimming in, if I can’t pull you out, I’m diving in.” When we face these situations that absolutely sink us down to our lowest level, we are never alone. When I see you drowning, I’m diving into that hurt with you. I’m going to endure it with you. Just like when Jesus see’s his children hurting. He’s going to dive into that bucket of ice water and swim you to the ledge and you’re going to break through to freedom, BUT only if we allow him to.
  • Isaiah 41:10 Fear thou not, for I am with thee; be not dismayed: for I am thy God. I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee. Yea I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.

Electroshock Therapy: In this obstacle we had to run through an area that had hay bales and mud holes dug into them, and electric shock wires dangling from the top. We sat back and observed people running through this at first and I got to the point where I almost didn’t go through with it. I saw big burly strong people fall down to the ground in an instant. I was terrified of the pain to come. I told everyone I didn’t want to do it and almost opted out of it. At the last minute I got a burst of courage and went through. Although it was painful, there was an awesome satisfactory finish.

  • Too often in this day and age we see so many “Big, strong, burly” Christians who fall to the ground. Multiple megachurch pastors, or even just Christians who have served Christ for years are falling away and compromising their faith for the world. Compromise is deadly and there are so many “big” sins that we fall into. But God showed me a different application through this obstacle. The wires are small but have such a strong effect. Too often in our lives, we let the little things get to us. Gossip, dispute, a bad look, or even a miscommunication. We let these little things tear us up. We sit and think of them, dwell on them, and let them destroy our relationships in the body and in our relationship with God. When we are so close to something God has for us, we let the little things in and destroy us. We have GOT to set our sights on God alone and recognize the silly things we allow to overtake us.

The Pyramid Scheme. This was my absolute favorite obstacle. It was all about camaraderie. There was a curved halfpipe with a mud moat surrounding it, and there was no way to complete this one alone. Once my team helped me get to the middle, people at the top reached down for my hand and pulled me up. Once I was at the top, people were reaching up for help, so two guys grabbed my feet and I was reaching down grabbing people and pulling them up.

  • We CANNOT fight this fight alone. We need one another! One of my favorite things about the whole idea of Tough Mudder was the team aspect. It didn’t matter at all who you were, everyone helped everyone. I was reaching my hand out for people that I’ve never met. People need that hand. There are no limits to what God can do when we reach out to others.

At the end of the race we ran to the volunteers who then crowned us with head bands as a symbol of our accomplishment. How amazing will it be when we run the race God has appointed us to run, and we receive that crown of life?

Tough Mudder made me feel like a soldier on a mission. I was running a race with so many other people with the same goal in mind. Along the way you’re going to get muddy. You’re going to get hurt and experience pain. You’re going to have to make decisions and build up courage to face things that you may have never thought you could face. But, you’re also never going to be alone. So many people are rooting you on, lending a hand, and pushing you to never quit or give up. When we feel overwhelmed, God says I am Jehovah Jireh, your provider. When you feel hurt and the pain is too much to bear, and you want to quit, God says I am Jehovah Rapha, the Lord that heals.

  • 1 Corinthians 9:24-25

24 Know ye not that they which run in a race run all, but one receiveth the prize? So run, that ye may obtain25 And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible.

Run so you may obtain!